Your Husband is Your Jesus

So I am over at my mom's for Sunday dinner, and my 22 year old sister is in a dither. She recently attended a wedding where the scripture passages were 1st Corinthians 13 (standard) and Ephesians 5:22 et al (conveniently leaving out Ephesians 5:21). This was irritating, but she could deal. But then the pastor told the bride that he "You need to treat your husband as if he was Jesus, as if he was your savior." Then the minister goes on to say to her husband: "You need to treat this woman beside you [he wouldn't even use her name] as if she was the church and you are Jesus."

Now how the heck am I,(or anybody, for that matter) supposed to encourage young women to consider Christianity when THIS is the sort of thing that they get to hear at weddings?